☀️ Summer Bucket Lists

Today, we kick off our "Survive or Thrive" summer series with an episode that explores the summer bucket list. From the craziness of over-scheduled activities with little ones to a more relaxed, balanced approach as our kids grow, we share our personal journeys with summer bucket lists and how to we approach them.

In this episode, we cover:
1. The concept of a summer bucket list
2. Parenting strategies for summer
3. Tailoring activities to fit your family's diverse preferences

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Summer Bucket List Thrive vs Survive

Speaker 1 0:03

Welcome to Don't Call Me Midlife . This summer we're shaking things up a bit with our special series called Survive or Thrive . We know moms are extra busy during the summer , so we're bringing you shorter , bite-sized episodes focused on one hot topic at a time . Join us as we share tips , stories and laughs , helping you decide if you're just getting by or truly thriving this summer . Hi , nicole , good morning . It is summer , summer , summer time , okay , and we are going to change up this podcast . We want to let you ladies know for the summer and we are going to be making shorter , sort of like bite-sized episodes this summer , talking about one topic in particular and all the things about that topic . Now , these topics are things that midlife women , moms , will experience specifically during the summer , and when you're listening to this episode , we want to know if , with the topic , if you thrive with this topic in the summertime , or you're just surviving , and that's what we're going to talk about at the end .

Speaker 1 1:06

Yeah , I find most of my summers I've been in survival mode . When they were younger , I put them in a lot of summer camp , like the day camps , and they loved it . But as they got older , they wanted to do it less and less , and so , you know , during those times it's been a little bit more survival mode . But now that my kids are a little bit older , it's a little bit more enjoyable and they sleep in , and so that's where I'm at . How about you ? I'm the same way . We travel a lot during the summertime , but I think it's switching that mindset right now of not overbooking them , because my kids are always like OK , mom , just chill , we want to chill , like we don't need to have a whole schedule , but we still have that need to be like well , we need to get outside , we need to go to the pool , we need to do this and that you know . So I think it's just an interesting time and that's what we're going to talk about this summer , all these interesting times , right ? Yes , exactly , I think I think we should touch on the summer bucket list , you know , because that could produce , I feel like , angst for some of our ladies here . Or it could be like give me a summer bucket list , give me the ideas . I don't know . When I say summer bucket list , what does it evoke to you ? I love that idea . I think talking about summer bucket list would be an awesome first topic for this episode . Yes , yes , yes . Do you talking about summer bucket list would be an awesome first topic for this episode .

Speaker 1 2:26

Yes , yes , yes , do you do a summer bucket list ? I used to Same thing when my kids were little , but I like to still do it . I just do it in a different way . I mean it's not like a laminated Pinterest , you know list type of thing . But I do ask my kids what are the three things that you want to do this summer , and it doesn't have to be an extravagant thing , right ? A couple of my kids will say I want to go to the local ice cream shop here which is called , like , dairy Joy . I think the expectations there are no expectations . Actually , Like our kids have the best summer ever . I want to be our kids , so I do make it . I mean , I may put it on a post-it this year and put it on the fridge , but that's good . I love post-its . Yeah , I love that idea .

Speaker 1 3:13

I actually have a friend that used to do the Pinterest summer bucket list where she would create her own . She would do it with her family and she would take it to a place like Kinko's and it was probably like 36 by 54 . I don't know , no exaggeration , it was huge and it was colorful and I believe it was laminated so they could check it off and write things on it , and that was my like , what I thought my goal was when I had younger kids . But you know , I also don't have kids that want to be on the go either , like go , go , go . So they do , they want their downtime , but I do ask them too , and so we do have three things , and only three things . Like they come up with a couple things and then we all have to agree on because , honestly , their personalities are so different .

Speaker 1 3:57

And I also noticed that , looking at if my kids are more introverted versus extroverted , that really , really makes a lot of sense for us , because my one son he wants to go to like every single festival , he wants to do everything like like carnivals and this and the other one Not that he hates it , but that's not what he wants to do all the time , like he wants to have like quiet heights and and so I really have to be mindful of everyone's personality and what's their capacity like , even the day of . Okay , I can guess who those kids are . You bring Eris to my house and I will keep him busy . We have similar littles . Oh , that is a great idea . We have similar littles .

Speaker 1 4:43

It's like you know what a good idea would be , nicole , is to have our sort of mom midlife bucket list and then our family bucket list . Right , because there are things that , as as you know , midlife women and moms that we want to maintain . Almost . It's almost like a bucket list to maintain over the summertime , because whether you work inside or outside the home Right you still want to have taken care of yourself a little bit too . So there are definitely things that I want to do as well . So I think the summer bucket list is a great idea . It's in a different capacity at this point of our life , but I do love your friend that laminates her bucket list . I need to be friends with her .

Speaker 1 5:22

I really love that idea of like just maintaining like . I don't know that anything really needs to be new on my bucket list , maybe some travel , but I really want to maintain like my morning routine ritual and walking . So I got back into like 10,000 steps a day and that's what I want to maintain . So I know like it doesn't have to be over the top or like super fun , but to me you just like nailed it for me . Oh good , check , check . I just like to put down some ideas of things that you can do just in the summertime . That's the way I sort of view a bucket list right , it is going like berry picking . It is going to that certain ice cream shop . You know the things , really the outdoor , sunny things that you have access to in the summer months , as opposed to not all year long . You know , I won't necessarily put go to the Museum of Science on my bucket list , because I can do that in the middle of December .

Speaker 1 6:15

It may be good for those introverted people that don't like the sun , though that is true , you are more thoughtful with your kids . I'm like guys , this is what we're doing . No , I don't even mean for my family , just like people in general . I was like doing a little research and a lot of . There was like some breakdowns with like introverted versus extroverted , so it really makes me look at things a little differently . I did take Megan Sumrall's Master , your Morning masterclass and she talked about different personality types in the morning . So it really kind of like opened my eyes to different types of activities and things for your family , though I like that . You know what You're making me think about .

Speaker 1 6:52

The morning with my boys . I think on the bucket list I need to be like wake up before 10 am . Your kids may be like , you know , the thriver , survive , smash or pass . We'll be like , pass , they're going to pass that one . But I do feel like I do want to take advantage of the days . You know my kids would wake up at 9 or 10 and then go to bed at 1 in the morning , where you know it's just a little bit different . I do want to take advantage , have that good balance between the chilling out which we know the boys love and girls love , but also , you know , doing things together .

Speaker 1 7:25

And I like your idea of making it simple . It doesn't have to be some extravagant trip or some you know extravagant excursion , sort of what everyone enjoys and taking advantage of where you are right and what is around you , where you live . Yes , 100% , I agree with you , all right . Well , this has been a little fun , little get together with you and talking about our little summer bucket list . And are we going to thrive or survive this summer ? What do you think I am thriving ?

Speaker 1 7:57

I just put out a summer , a seasonal summer guide called Savor your Summer . On my Instagram that has a summer bucket list that has to do with family dinner . So I view the bucket list as more of like , sort of like goal setting and just sort of fun things and the pressure not having the pressure , like we said when you were younger , but putting on the couple . Doable things , not like a hundred , you know a hundred things just put on a couple and also bring your family in on it . Bring your spouse , bring your kiddos you know , if you spend summers with grandparents , bring them along and get everyone . I feel like when you buy in it , just it makes it more fun and it's like they'll be proud to like oh , we went to that certain beach that we love or we got sea glass or you know whatever is on it . So , 100 percent thriving with a bucket list , make it . I encourage you to do it . Have fun with it . Same same , okay , okay . So tell everybody where they can get your guide . It's , it's Tridish and you can go get the summer bucket list and let us know if you ladies have any topics that you want us to discuss . So we would love to bring up all sorts of fun summer topics and we're just going to play , survive or thrive every week through the summer on Thursday . So be sure to listen to us All . Right Bye , ladies . Enjoy your summer .

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Speaker 1 9:15

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